We often notice how suddenly an adult who has taken place in his life becomes depressed, he leaves a good job, leaves his family, or radically changes his activities. Speaking figuratively, his actions manifest unpredictability and illogicality. And neither relatives nor friends, colleagues at work can understand him, and interestingly, even he cannot understand himself. All this suggests that a midlife crisis has come.
What are the symptoms of a crisis
Emptiness, depression, depression very often accompany this period. A person thinks that he has fallen into the trap of marriage or career. Everything that he has achieved in this life, material well-being, a well-functioning family life, stability, all this loses its meaning. There is dissatisfaction and a desire for something incomprehensible. The work seems to be routine, the novelty has been lost in family life, the children are already independent, the circle of friends has narrowed and also become monotonous.
If we compare professional or creative crises, then, according to others, such problems are not justified in any way. At this time, there is a change in value orientations, preferences. A person does things that no one expects from him, many people around do not always understand what is happening to him. At the same time, a person in moments of crisis thinks that everything around has changed.
What age
The midlife crisis begins in women in their thirties, while in men it can begin in their forties. And it can last a very long time, up to ten years. This period is dramatic, serious and significant compared to other periods in the life of each person.In terms of the strength of experiences and the impact on a person, it is similar to adolescence (crisis of puberty).
What are the causes of the crisis
Problems that were not resolved in adolescence, calmed down for a while and which have almost been forgotten, right now are falling on a person again. And most of the crisis situations at this age are considered echoes of unresolved teenage conflicts. If a young man of 14-16 years old could not get out of the influence of his parents, could not resist the way of life that his parents impose on him, then by the age of 30 or 40 he begins to understand that he lived his life according to other people's laws, and it's time, finally, set your own rules.
In this regard, there is a natural need to find oneself, to determine one's own attitudes. During a midlife crisis, there is a serious reassessment of values. However, such a crisis state can also be experienced by those who were able to overcome teenage complexes. At this time, the realization comes that life is nearing its end and much can no longer be realized.
How to get through a crisis effectively
The mid-life crisis may very well be the beginning of a new upsurge, the next peak of activity. But it is not at all necessary to categorically change your life path, because you can go further.However, at the same time, it is necessary to evaluate the past years, realize what is really important in life and the most important thing is to accept your life, and continue to strengthen what has been achieved during this time.
It is important to overcome the crisis, to evaluate what has been lived, because if the problem is pushed aside and not resolved, then by old age, perhaps, another, even more terrible crisis will overtake - the crisis of the end of life.After all, depending on how a person understood and accepted all the problems, consciously looked at reality, no matter how terrible it was, how easily he makes changes both in life and in himself, the future state of a person depends.
